People’s psychological exhaustion is a popular topic these days. It can instantly catch people’s attention because of the wide range of confusion it contains.
As for me, I get to think about it often because I know everyday experiences are contributing factors to our physical health, mental health, and overall well-being. Since I am a wife, a mother fostering child independence, a daughter, and a friend, I get to experience anxiety, stress, depression, and some other mental illness of some sort everywhere. I feel like there is no time for me to rest, take care of myself, and make myself feel good, and that just sucks.
I pretty much want to pause for a while from my responsibilities and avoid emotional well-being issues, physical problems, and psychological torture. Honestly, the issue here is not about what stresses my whole daily life.
Instead, it is about the things I can’t do to have stable energy levels, good mental health, and maintain a well-balanced overall well-being.
I Get Exhausted As Well
One of the heartbreaking things I often try to accept is that I am responsible for almost everyone. I sincerely get the idea that as a wife, I need to have self-confidence and be there for my husband.
I have to become the emotional support that he can lean on every time he thinks that things are falling apart. Thus, taking care of my mental health and making my health problems go away is very important. Also, I understand my duties as a mom. I recall the teen counseling expert’s statement that my kids are still learning to get a hold of life, so I know I must find ways communicating with teenagers and to be there for them throughout their health development.
As a daughter, I understand that I still have responsibilities to my parents despite having limited resources. Lastly, I know that social connection with other people requires me to exert an effort as well. With all these in my hand, I can say that I am not one of the lucky individuals who can have moments for themselves.
Unfortunately, I don’t have enough time to take care of my mental health. Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining about my life, and I understand the value of keeping my responsibilities intact. However, I just want the world to know that I get exhausted too.
I feel tired and fed up with stress and pressure all day. Why can’t I have a break? I want to take care of my mental health. I can’t do the things that you do to improve your mental state. I wish I could. I want to do some deep breathing and excuse myself from all the piled-up things I need to do, even just for a single day.
Can I Not Give A Damn About Things?
It is true that the only way I can get through this mental exhaustion is to not give a damn about everything. However, that is entirely not possible. I can’t just ignore my husband and tell him I don’t want to carry all his desperations and frustrations because I am his wife.
I promised to be there for him no matter what. Thus, I have to stick to that promise and take it all in. And to my kids, I can’t vanish and leave them all behind because they won’t be able to handle things on their own. They are too young for stress and more significant responsibilities.
I still need to be there for them to teach them everything they have to know and understand. To my parents, I get that I should not have to worry about them anymore since I have got my own family members now.
But I am still their daughter. There will be times when they will have to contact me for help, and I must be there for them. Why not? And to my social connections, I can’t just let go of that.
I need them to be there for me, especially when I don’t want to be there for myself. I need people to surround me with positivity so that I can manage to get through. I can’t just ignore these essential things in my life because, without them, I would not have a purpose.
What Are My Options?
I know, for a fact, that my mental health is essential. That is why I try my best not to allow myself to get drained emotionally and mentally. As much as possible, I try to take care of my mental health.
In fact, I take serious precautions when it comes to my overall health needs. Thus, I engage in healthy routines and a healthy lifestyle that can support that. I focus on regular exercise regularly by doing an ample amount of chores in the house.
I eat healthy foods because I have to put that on the table for my kids. I drink plenty of water because I move my body a lot. And I talk to people often because I continuously rant about all the problems I encounter every day. Unfortunately, that seems not enough.
I even try mental health treatment and seek mental health professional help. But that mental health care is not working either.
Again, I don’t blame the people in my life for all the responsibilities I need to do for them. I love them, so I don’t regret every hardship and exhaustion or whatever it is that is emotionally, physically, and mentally weighing me down.
However, I just have this feeling of wanting to be with myself and away from everyone’s noses. Would that be selfish, especially if I only wanted to take care of my mental health? Should I consider mental health services or seek professional assistance for wanting to be with myself?
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