Meeting people from all walks of life allowed me to see that the principles a person learns from childhood have a huge influence on their behavior as an adult.
For instance, if the kid grew up hearing from the people around them that it’s easy to make money by deceiving others, they may take that to heart and end up with a criminal record. In case he or she only learned to procrastinate, that child would most likely turn into a lazy, unproductive individual.
It’s an exaggeration to link it to the proverbial apple that never falls too far from the tree. The problem is that the kids in the above examples didn’t know the value of responsibility; that’s why it’s hard for them to stay accountable for something significant like their job or life. “The best type of parenting is fair, flexible, respectful, and has learning—rather than submission—as its goal.” says Melanie Greenberg Ph.D.
To keep your offspring from having the same fate, find out how a child can get the hang of being responsible.
Help Them Realize There’s No Other Way Around It
The first thing that kids should grasp is that they will have a lot of obligations in this lifetime. Whether the duty is for their family, business, or country, they need to prepare for it sooner than later. Hence, it’s pointless to whine whenever you ask them to fix their bed or clean after themselves. Jim Taylor Ph.D. notes that, “There should also be consequences for not fulfilling responsibilities. The best consequences are those that remove something of importance to your children and give them the control to get it back by acting appropriately.”
Increase Responsibilities Little By Little
Though the goal is to teach accountability to your child, you have to delegate a task to him or her that’s age-appropriate. Say, you got a toddler. At this point, he or she can merely put the toys back on the shelves or throw their used nappy in the trash. You may give the kid bigger chores as they mature.
Avoid Losing Your Cool
It seems to be in children’s nature to either follow your orders sloppily or not take your words seriously. Despite that, you should try your best not to cry out in frustration. Practice can make their actions more fluid, after all, so let them continue with the task until they feel accustomed to it.
Allow The Child To Fulfill Tasks On Their Own
Kids, of course, have no idea of how to accomplish chores at the beginning. Thus, you may show them the proper way of doing it a couple of times. But what you shouldn’t ever do is breathing down their necks each time they’re on to something. According to Perri Klass, M.D. and co-author, “Calibrate your expectations about what your child is capable of doing independently. If you trusted your babies enough to distribute an errand to them, trust them more to complete their tasks without your help. ”
Throw In Compliments Here And There
Everyone performs better when a mentor praises them. You are your child’s guide on his or her journey to learning the value of responsibility; that’s why you can’t forget to offer some encouragement, especially once they earn it. Simple statements such as “You’re doing great!” or “Thank you!” can boost their energy.
Do What You Teach
In the end, the children need to see that you’re not just making them clean their room or wash the plates because you primarily wish to lessen your work. The thought isn’t bad, for sure, yet your objective is to become the role model of being responsible in their eyes. So, ascertain that you’re finishing all your duties at home like them.