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Everyone has a secret spot on their residential property that’s equivalent to Batman’s cave. You know, the place where you retreat when there’s tension in the air, and you won’t want to drop statements you’ll later regret. Sounds familiar?
Anyway, for me, that is my garden. All the stress I harbored in the last few days tends to go away each time I cultivate the soil or re-pot a plant. When I mentioned that to a friend who happens to specialize in child development, she said that gardening might be advantageous for kids as well. Hence, I wasted no time to share my hobby with my brood.
Here are the benefits I noticed after letting the children garden with me.
It Helps Them Like Vegetables
Regardless of how early I introduced greens and fruits to my kids, I had a hard time encouraging them to eat fresh produces, especially when it comes to the former variety. It must be due to their color or texture, but it truly came to a point when they could still tell I added vegetable bits in the homemade burgers.
Things only got better once they frequented the garden. Aside from flowering plants, I made sure they’d get to work with lettuce, pepper, eggplants, etc. so that they’d somehow become familiar with the veggies. To my surprise, the children didn’t hesitate to sample every produce they harvested.
As explained by Dr. Helen Delichatsios, an internist at Harvard-affiliated Massachusetts General Hospital, “Backyard gardening can inspire you to take an interest in the origins of your food and make better choices about what you put on your plate.” Now, they don’t mind having vegetables regularly on the dining table, which is a significant development.
It Boosts Intelligence
Studying the growth of plants at school merely kids that it all begins with a seed, and then stem sprouts after a few days, and leaves and flowers come afterward. However, it’s mostly theoretical; that’s why they perhaps cannot see the importance of taking care of the environment at a young age.
Nevertheless, the practical experience that they can’t get from school is what you can give them through gardening. The children can touch the earth with their bare hands at home. They can also be as close as possible to examine the patterns on the leaves or the fine details of the plants. Due to that, both their senses and scientific knowledge can improve.
“As children and teenagers are often focused on electronics and social media, gardening can be a great way for them to engage in a positive prosocial activity. When children have engaged in pleasant activities, they are better able to handle other stressors and are better able to regulate their emotions” Deborah Zlotnik, PhD, a psychologist with Children’s National, points out.
That’s what I did with my children from the moment they turned three – the age when they assume they’re old enough to handle tasks for big boys or girls. I specifically told the kiddos to embed the seeds in the soil and water the containers every day, and they were more than ecstatic to oblige.
Moreover, maintaining a family garden can also be special. “A family garden gives us an opportunity to put our phones down and engage with each other, face to face,” said Barbara Tarkin, PhD, a licensed psychologist in Bloomfield.
A probable reason I’m seeing is that they feel a connection with the plants as they exerted much effort in putting them in pots. So, the children aim to make sure the living things won’t die. It’s like hitting two birds with a single stone on the parents’ part because you get to teach responsibility to your babies and have more flora to add to the garden at once.
If you’re a typical momma like me, you surely have your schedule full all the time, whether you have a job or not. Having school-aged kids means you need to get up early to prepare them and devote your time afterward to helping them with their homework and future quizzes. When you have a toddler, it entails that there are more tasks to do since they still can’t do things on their own. Besides, the dishes, dirty clothes, and the rest of the house won’t clean themselves without you.
The things that parents wish to tend to change almost every year, especially when the children are still young. As soon as the baby’s born, you may say, “Oh, I can’t wait to nurture this child and give him or her the best stuff in the world.” Once they start climbing, cluttering, and possibly breaking items around the house, however, you may instantly hope for them to be old enough to enter school so that you’ll get some peace at home.
More than Christmases and birthdays, our family started looking forward to summer the most since the first-born entered school. Since the kids typically have their schedules now, that’s the period when we can go anywhere without thinking of classes the next day. It’s also OK for everyone to sleep in or plan exciting activities out of town.
The only thing I dread during such a long vacation is the time when it’ll end. It isn’t difficult to get used to lazy days that summertime brings, and so going back to the routine after that is like torture for all, especially for kids.
That’s the reason why I tried doing something different last summer to remedy that problem. Keep on reading to work out how to get your family back on the schedule as well.
Be Clear About The Situation
Melanie Greenberg, PhD, wrote about the adverse effects of nagging your children. “Most parents are familiar with the early morning rush to get everybody out the door on time—along with their lunches, gym clothes, musical instruments, signed homework, and so on. The child who gets distracted and seems unmotivated to get ready on time is the greatest challenge to a busy parent.” She said, “The problem with nagging, however, is that you are actually training kids to ignore you—they know there will always be more reminders down the road.”
From my experience, talking to the children regarding the impending conclusion of their break at least two weeks before it happens is necessary. It gives them the chance to dive into the old routine slowly, so there will no longer be whining once the academic year begins.
You may do it even when your kid is just about to enter 1st grade. Though they are young, they still need to prepare their minds for school beforehand.
Choose Sleeping Times
I came to understand as well that you can only tell your children when to sleep and not hear any complaint while they’re still below the age of seven. As soon as it goes beyond that, they may start asking for extensions and whatnot.
What you can do in case you see yourself in this circumstance is a call for a quick family meeting concerning the best time for everybody to go to bed. That includes the mom and the dad because some kids think it’s unfair that adults can stay up later than them. There may be free nights, of course, but sleeping as much as the kids may prove to be great for you too. Not to mention, that’ll coax them to rest along with the other family members without a fuss.
According to Michael J. Breus, PhD, “Developing consistent evening routines and regular bedtimes generally works best when parents start this practice early, giving children the chance to accept the nighttime schedule as a non-negotiable part of everyday life.
Reiterate The Rules
Children can be like senior citizens, in the sense that they fail to immediately recall stuff that they used to do after weeks of not doing it. Thus, your priorities should comprise helping them remember the do’s and don’ts when they have to follow a specific schedule.
The list can consist of what they need to accomplish before you pick them up from school, e.g., packing their bags and staying near the entrance. Then, you may remind them once more of their homework, relaxation, and eating times.
Speaking of foods, the entire family should eat together regardless of your busy calendars. You can’t all be in sync if the parent always has to stay out late or one of the kids has extracurricular activities during mealtime.
An ideal scenario is that you consume breakfast, lunch, and dinner together. “Shared meals provide an excellent opportunity for good parenting—i.e., spending quality time and quantity time with one’s children,” wrote Christopher Peterson, PhD. “In families that frequently eat together, the children benefit in innumerable ways. They are happier and healthier, perhaps because they eat more nutritious meals. They get better grades. They are less likely to smoke, drink, or use other drugs. They have better relationships with their parents and with their siblings.”
However, considering it may not occur due to various commitments outside the household, you can pick a single time that’s favorable for everyone. Even for just an hour or two, you will be able to bond as a family and remain on the same page.
Children nowadays are bombarded with information from television, movies, and the internet, especially from social media. It is not surprising that they are exposed to the topic of sexuality. And the children exposed to this subject are getting younger. Some are even as young as 9 to 12 years old; an age commonly called the tween age. Unfortunately, the information they get on this topic might not be the correct one.
Note: For those who haven’t read Part 1, please do so before jumping to this article. Thank you!
“It’s not that teenagers suddenly discovered the joy of sex. Sexual activity among teens remained stable. What changed was the use of contraception,” Joni E Johnston, PsyD, wrote. That said, teenage males fathering a child also need the involvement of their family. Some may welcome the chance of being a father who has hands-on involvement with their children, while others may feel afraid and guilty, and may need encouragement to face his responsibilities, as, for every state, a father is legally responsible for child support.
A quite controversial topic among families all over the country is the issue of teenage pregnancy. So much taboo and dogmas surround the problem, coming from various sectors and backgrounds, the subject can and will be easily overwhelmed by such. Parents definitely would not expect to be grandparents at such an early stage, and such, may not know how to deal with such a fact.
How To Deal Upon Discovering That Your Child Is Sexually Active
First of all, do not panic when you find out that your teen is having sex. You must not allow any feelings of worry or even anger control your reactions. Your child must feel safe talking to you and come to you for advice and support.
According to Sam Louie, MA, LMHC, “What parents need to remember is that, first, it is normal for children to have sexual behaviors and related questions, as sexual development begins in infancy. As toddlers, they begin to articulate their curiosity with questions and behaviors related to their bodies, gender differences, and sexual functioning.”